If you want this Valentine’s Day to be the best ever, follow one simple rule; talk positive.  Marriage therapist Dr John Gottman observed years ago that couples who expressed appreciation and supportive comments to one another had a far better chance of maintaining that loving feeling when life got tough.

He developed a ratio for those comments that was practically divorce-proof – the 5: 1 rule. If you expressed five positive thoughts for every one negative, you had the makings of a decent relationship.  Let the balance tip too far into the negative, and it made the going a lot harder.

Everyone – man or woman – appreciates being valued. And doing some simple caring things for your partner daily is guaranteed to improve the communication and warmth in your relationship.

Here’s a few suggestions to get you started – and as we suggest, get creative, think of your own ways to show him you care, and act on them now.

Sharing The Love

♥ Cook his favourite meal

♥ Go to a sports game

♥ Clean his car

♥ Give him a 30 minute full body massage

♥ Buy a book on his favourite topic

♥ Replace his favourite broken-down handyman tool

♥ Rent his favourite DVD and watch it together

♥ Praise something he has done in front of friends

♥ Thank him for three things he does for you

♥ Put on lipstick

♥ Say five positive things everyday

♥ Give him “chill out” space

♥ Bake and serve morning tea (in his home workshop / office)

♥ Text him an encouraging message

♥ Initiate Sex

♥ Breakfast in Bed

♥ Sit quietly with him while he watches TV

♥ Get creative – what would your partner like best?

♥ Do it!

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