My Best Friend’s Ex
How unforgivable is it to date a mate’s ex-girlfriend? If he didn’t know it before, John Terry the former England football captain, is finding out he’s broken one of the unwritten rules of friendship – never date a friend’s ex.
First he lost the captaincy, became the target of a nationwide smear campaign, and now team mate Wayne Bridges has spat the dummy and refused to play with him.
He’s ignored one of the biggest rules of the brotherhood – never date a good friend’s ex girlfriend, not matter how alluring and available.
“If the ex-girlfriend rule is ever broken, chances are that the friendship will be lost, and a physical fight might even break out,” advises Ask Men’s relationship counsellor Curt Smith.
The Bro Code
Sydney newspaper dating advice columnist Samantha Brett points out anyone in desperate need for guidance can always look to the official Bro Code book, authored by (the fictional) Barney Stinson, the serial womaniser (played by Neil Patrick Harris) in the hit TV show How I Met Your Mother.
Stinson – who rotates his women as often as he changes his underwear – lives his life by his self-created Bro Code and continually quotes it to his mates when he feels they’re doing wrong by him.
The rules of his code include:
* Bros before Hos.
* The mom of a Bro is always off-limits but the stepmom of a Bro is fair game if she initiates it and/or is wearing at least one article of leopard print clothing.
* A Bro will drop whatever he’s doing and rush to help his Bro dump a chick.
* If a Bro forgets a guy’s name he may call him “brah”, “dude”, or “man” but never “Bro”.
Are the ‘Rules’ Right?
So she’s delectable – and she’s available. Your mate has moved on and says he’s not interested any more. Is it EVER okay to ask her out? If so, how long after your mate has broken up with her would it be acceptable to make a move?
Are there any other unwritten “Bro Code” rules you follow or expect your friends to follow. Have you experienced a friendship gone sour because a mate broke the rules – or quite the opposite – you took up with a mate’s “ex” and now you’re all great buddies.
We’d be fascinated to hear of your experiences in this fraught arena.