Beautiful Chick – Ugly Guy
They say opposites attract, but seeing a beautiful woman with an unattractive man never fails to attract comment. Think Christine Aguilera and Jordan Bratman; Julia Roberts and Lyle Lovett; Jay-Z and Beyonce; Kid Rock and Pamela Anderson; Woody Allen and Mia Farrow, and the newly married Zooey Deschanel and Ben Gibbard.
While some of these couples – like Julia and Lyle – didn’t last long – others like Christine and Jordan appear to have the relationship game sussed.
Christina recently gushed to E! News, “”Jordan just continuously…just makes me fall deeper and deeper in love with him every day. He just exudes such love…and [is] such a great father to Max (their toddler son) that it just makes me the happiest woman alive.”
Positive Talk with Beautiful Wives
Jordan keeps his woman happy by surprising her with balloons, leaving love notes, and maintaining a tradition known as Naked Sundays, where the couple spends the day totally naked.
Massive amounts of pampering no doubt help Christine and Jordan bond, but the beauty gap may also have something to do with it.
A 2008 study found that found that married couples communicate more positively when wives are more attractive than their husbands. (Conversely both spouses behaved more negatively when the husband was more attractive than the wife.)
Previous research has shown that people seeks relationships with others who are judged to be attractive. The research wanted to see if the benefits of looking good lasted into marriage.
Benefits of Looking Good
The University of Florida study was an effort to answer the questions “are the benefits of attractiveness limited to formative stages of new relationships?”
Researchers examined 82 couples in the first six months of their marriages. Spouses reported their marital satisfaction and were rated by trained observers regarding their levels of attractiveness and the positivity of the interactions with each other.
Researchers found “both spouses tended to behave more positively when wives were more attractive than their husbands.” Both spouses behaved “more negatively when husbands were more attractive than their wives,” according to the study.
“Certainly, physical attractiveness is not the only thing that matters to marriage,” says lead researcher Associate Professor James McNulty. “At a more general level, the study suggests that spouses will behave more positively when their partners meet the desires that are important to them.”
As we said, Christine knows pampering – just feeling appreciated – certainly helps.