Seems everyone is mad at Kristen Stewart, following the infidelity that led to her breakup with Breaking Dawn co star Robert Pattinson.

Female fans of the vampire series are threatening to boycott Stewart’s future films; commentators call her “the most hated woman in Hollywood” and predict her indiscretion will impact negatively on her career.

Is That Fair?

But what I’m wondering is whether we aren’t being rather two faced about the whole episode?

After all there are numerous surveys in the last few years to show more and more women are not just being unfaithful to their long term partners, but also refusing to feel in the least guilty about their two timing.

Unfaithful – and Unashamed

A 2010 UK survey for example – the Way We Are Now nationwide survey conducted by the marriage guidance counselling organisation Relate showed that 34 per cent of women respondents admitted to being unfaithful, compared with 32 per cent of men.

A British on line dating and introduction site for “nice attached middle class people” reports a “huge increase in younger female clients” from the “Because I’m Worth It” generation.

Says director David Miller: “They had a much freer sexual history when they were single and they have far more expectations of good sex.”

If I Can Get Away With it, Why Not?

These women share a “because I can” attitude when it comes to having affairs.

A US showed most affairs start at work, and women who travel for work are three times more likely to have affairs than those who don’t.

And as one Dutch study showed, it’s more to do with power and opportunity than morality – and women are increasingly deciding if they can get away with it they will.

The main concern for these women seems to be not getting caught – a “what they don’t know won’t hurt them” approach to marital intimacy…

How’s Your EMA?

They even got an acronym for their activities – the EMA (extra marital affair) and take precautions like keeping two mobile phones – one used exclusively for the EMAs – they keep from their long term  partners.

One woman likened her affairs to “outsourcing” her sexual frustrations – “just like hiring a cleaner rather than argue over who does the dishes.”

Seems Kirsten’s mistake was being indiscreet . . .  What do you think?

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About the author

Jenny W
First career as newspaper and magazine journalist with daily newspapers and magazines, then as an editor who successfully launched a new national Sunday newspaper and NZ House & Garden magazine. First woman editor of NZ Listener. Enjoying a second career as a business owner and entrepreneur, health products marketer, social media habitué, blogger and web marketer. Still learning and loving it.

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