Personal lubricants can reduce pain and increase pleasure, as well as ensuring you are “ready for sex” when your mind feels ready – rather than having to wait for your body to catch up.
They are great for use by both men and women at any age and stage, but are especially useful post-menopause when the vaginal wall may thin and lubrication not so readily found. Used sensitively they can add a sense of play and affection to love making.
Things to look for in a lubricant:
Being water based may not be enough. Check also that it is free of propylene glycol, chlorhexidine, or other parabens, which apart from wider concerns can cause some women irritation. The more natural the product, the less chance of a reaction. Good Clean Love is one recommended brand which uses organic ingredients and has a good consistency.
Mostly these are marketing exercises. The warming lubes are best used on the outside of a condom, and can add a sensation during sex, but you can definitely get too much of a good thing. A dime sized application is plenty for most women, whose genitals are more sensitive than men’s
His N Hers packs won’t do anything for you that a standard one can’t but may add a sense of anticipation. As for flavoured lubes, they may add a frisson of naughtiness, but check the flavour before use (some taste pretty terrible) and if you a diabetic steer clear as many contain sugar.